Hey chicas! We know it’s not easy being a woman out there. With so many contradicting expectations flying around, how do you figure out which ones you agree with and try to meet- if any? And with all those things flying around your head, it can be super easy to start caring--too much--about the opinions that other people have of us. Especially during an age when popularity can literally be measured by the number of followers one has on social media. We’re here to tell you not to sweat it. Easier said than done. Sure. But take a look at these tips that we think will help you get through your day being you, and feeling more confident about it.
1 | First, realize that your worth is not determined by other people
Before you walk out the door in the morning, or rather, before you check to see if you got any new Instagram followers overnight, remind yourself that your worth as a person doesn’t come from what others think of you. It doesn’t. Nope. Not at all. Once you have that in your head, go ahead and run through your normal day prepared for whatever negativity may come your way. You’ll be ready for it and able to push it to a place in your mind where negative comments aren’t taken personally. Why? Because you’ll remember that your worth is intrinsic. What’s that you ask? Intrinsic means “belonging to a things by its very nature.” In other words, your worth belongs to you and it doesn’t change. Ever! It can’t increase or decrease. You are valuable. Period.
2 | Remember the big picture
We get it. Everyone loves to feel like they’re on top of their game and that everyone has a good opinion of them. It feels great, right? But let’s just say that doesn’t happen. In that case, try to take a look at the bigger picture. You know, what really matters in life. Say, for example, helping others who might be less fortunate than yourself. When we’re able to take the focus off ourselves and focus on what we can do to help others, insecurities and self-consciousness will melt away like a popsicle in July. When we’re busy trying to make the world a better place, there’s not a lot of time left in the day to be self-conscious! Try it.
3 | Remember that you are you
Say you like to do different things, believe different things, wear different things (etcetera) that are contrasting from the the other people in your life. Great! Even if the things you like aren’t popular, remember that anything that’s popular is temporary. Fads change. Trends come and go. But you can always be yourself. Chasing what’s popular *might* make you more likeable for a moment, but chances are you’ll just exhaust yourself trying to keep up with the trends. And in the end, you might not even like yourself that much. Stay true to yourself and the people who matter will notice and adore that about you.
Got your own tips to share that help you feel more confident during your day? Share them with us over on Instagram. We’d love to hear!